Archives for the month of: December, 2014

It took less than two days of living under the same roof as my vile stepfather to get into an argument with him. The topic: The South Korean “Nut Rage”, which left the daughter of a Korean Airline’s chairman in national disgrace after she whined about macadamia nuts being served in a baggie instead of a bowl and caused a huge delay on her flight to Seoul, inconveniencing every other passenger on the plane. I thought the story was straight-up a case of the ugliness of nepotism and entitlement. Without reading the article, only skimming the headline, my stepfather started to argue with me that 1.) Nepotism was a good thing and necessary, and that I’d probably take a chance at it too if he became the president of Harvard and I wanted to work there 2.) There were standards that “help” had to meet, and that 3.) As a feminist, it was my duty to support this brat, because she’s a woman.

I explained why he was wrong on all fronts, cited some articles and news stories about how nepotism/family-run companies known as chaebols has bloated and stagnated the South Korean economy, and how I had absolutely no loyalty to an upper-class woman who treated working people and that my loyalty was to the flight attendant, regardless of gender.

He blew his top, called me a know-it-all, and then tried to shift the conversation by talking about the Taliban and demanding to know why it took me so long to finish college (really).

Conclusion: It doesn’t matter whether I’m 15 or 25, my stepfather is always going to be enraged and hysterical at the idea of a young woman knowing more about a topic than him and being unafraid to show it. The difference now is that he has no power over me.

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Gender Studies: We’re in deep shit because of patriarchy.
Postcolonial Studies: We’re in deep shit because of Europe.
Post-structuralism: We’re in deep shit because of binary oppositions.
Butler: We’re in deep shit because of performativity.
Foucault: We’re deep in power, which yes, sometimes can be shit.
Deleuze and Guattari: We’re in the molar and the molecular of deep shit.
Fanon: We’re in deep shit unless we decolonize.
Said: We’re in deep shit because of Othering.
Sara Ahmed: We’re in deep emotional shit.

Thank you for the idea to post it to my own blog, Evelina Anville, and thank you, Clarissa, for inspiring me with your post to write this. 🙂

In 2014, I went to more ballets, plays, musicals, independent films, poetry readings, and performances than I ever had in previous years.

In 2014, I applied for my first SSHRC grant.

In 2014, I figured out which graduate schools to go to, and applied.

In 2014, I learned how to break thr ough the worst of my fresh and long-held childhood traumas in therapy, and identified the root of my eating disorder, my impulse control problems and my separation anxiety.

In 2014, I learned the importance of friendship and doing things outside of university settings with your friends in order to help you and your friendships grow .

Most of all, in 2014, I learned that nothing’s impossible for me to do if I work hard and set my mind to it.

OH G-D I AM NEVER LEAVING ANYTHING TO THE LAST MINUTE EVER AGAIN. WHY LORD WHY DID I THINK I COULD DO THIS. I WILL NEVER BE THIS COCKY AGAIN. I AM DOING EVERYTHING IN A WEEK IN ADVANCE I PROMISE YOU G-D JUST GET MY SSHRC PROCESSED BEFORE 5:00 PST!